#Review 1: Superior Moms

It's February and I am down with only 1 book khatam-ed.
Which means 19 to go, for my 4th resolution. So lembab.

To combine resolution no. 4 and no. 11, I have to review on books.
Battle Hymn Of The Tiger Mother by Amy Chua, published in 2011 was recommended by one of this speaker of a seminar I went (I forgot her name) a psychologist and writer of parenting books.

I rate 8/10, for most of the stories remind me of my (tiger) mom, although she's not Chinese and professor, but she always treat us like Sophie and Lulu.
And yes, I agreed 100% Chinese moms are superior compared to the others.

I remember last time, tv session for an hour or so per day. Tu pun berita TV1. On Wednesday dapat extra hour sebab X-Files. Every weekends catch up on mengaji and sometimes balik kampung.
Hafal sifir kena power. Baca jawi kena lancar. Baca Daily Express (versi English) with loud and clear.
I have no regrets. My strict mom thought us to be what we are today. Religion-economic-education-perception-principles-health-political wise. But most of all, attitude.

What we see nowadays, parents yang terlalu manjakan anak-anak. Attitude hilang, respect lagi lah nun jauh. Don't blame the kids if you failed to raise them right.
I have a patient, 21 years old, she came with her son yang turn out to be sangatlah nakal and she was like tak kisahlah nakal panjat here and there asal kau selamat. Geram dengan budak tu I told the mother, tegur lah budak tu and her respond was? "Hehe.. Ga pa pa mbak." -_-

Conclusions,
1. This book recommended for parents out there yang anak-anak tengah membesar (5 years above)
2. Seiring dengan arus kemodenan yang tak terkejar, don't spoil your kids.
3. As my siblings and I recall mom's dictatorship, we are glad for that type of dictatorship made us survived in this cruel world. Heartless, tough and independent.

2013 and resolutions.

What to achieve?
1. Get my BDS and chioww before May.
2. Get my DIS and start BAIS
3. Hafazan
4. At least 20 beneficial books to read. Doesn't matter to repeat the same book.
5. Taming bulge. (Every year resolution. Blergh)
6. Eat right. Fibres and oats!
7. Sleep at 10pm. Sleep in 6-7 hours.
8. Travel more. *insert happy face*
9. Start giving to society.
10. Join a cause/volunteer.
11. Start writing. Lack of creativity nowadays.
12. Drink 2L plain water per day for a moist skin.
13. Run at least 20 mins/ session. 3 times/week. --to get Kimberley's body
14. Go for kelas mengaji! Like the real one!
15. Break up with orange and yellow, try other colours. (important!)
16. Go for cooking class.
17. .. and maybe kelas menjahit.
18. Have my own mini library in my room.
19. Start investing. Omg. This should be on my 5th list.
20. Mengundi? Lol.

The word JIHAD

Waktu kita sedikit

"Ketahuilah, kewajiban itu lebih banyak daripada waktu yang tersedia, maka bantulah saudaramu untuk menggunakan waktunya dengan sebaik-baiknya dan jika anda punya kepentingan atau tugas selesaikan segera"

4/11

Kerap saya terjumpa pacik macik berjalan berdua di public. Mall, hospital, tepi jalan.

I can't stop looking at the old couples,

They reminds me of my parents back home.

Kalau dorang tua nanti, where am I? Kalau dorang perlukan saya nanti, adakah saya berada di sisi mereka? 

Masa saya dengan ibu bapa sangat singkat. I was away all the time.

Bila orang tanya saya, kalau saya get married saya akan pilih where is he come from? 

Jawapan simple saya, ya. Saya akan pilih. It is important for me to choose. I plan to stay nearby my parents. 

Still, Allah plans better. Percaya Qada' dan Qadar. 

I know my sister and brother take care of my parents very well. 

It is about time my turn pula untuk jaga parents.

Mu'adh said, "Bliss belongs to someone who is dutiful towards his parents. Allah Almighty will prolong his life."

Been ages

Surprise surprise!
Oh God,
I don't know where to start.
I'm lost on my own blogspot settings. Things are much more complicated nowadays, yes?
Working on my daily journals and my fav articles just for my collections.

Random thought:
Live life to the fullest is not practical, for life is temporary and you have life in hereafter. Live life like you are dying tomorrow. Pray hard and work hard.

Tinggalkan sesuatu yang tidak bermanfaat bagimu.

Ada sepotong hadith (sahih), menyatakan tinggalkanlah sesuatu yang tidak bermanfaat bagimu, walaupun ia tidak membawa kemudaratan, tapi tinggalkanlah. Kerana, masa kita sangat terhad. 


Ingatkah kita sumpah Allah dalam Surah Al-Asr? Demi masa, sesungguhnya manusia kerugian. Melainkan mereka yang beriman & beramal soleh, berpesan pada kebenaran dan berpesan pada kesabaran.


Analogi keobses-an terhadap game memang matching dengan situasi ini. Bila kita obses main game, toleh kiri kanan pun tidak sempat, nanti kalah, kononnya. Memang khusyuk habis untuk pergi ke level selanjutnya. 100,200,600,1000,500000 sampai game over. Nyamuk nginggg nginggg pun lantak kau lah. Jangan ganggu game aku. Even ada hot chocolate di sebelah pun tidak sempat pandang, padahal hot chocolate tu bukan harmful pun. Tapi tidak beneficial untuk game kita. Obsesnya untuk menang. 
Dapat imagine?

Same goes untuk kehidupan kita, kita ada target dan goal, iaitu syurga Allah. Finishing line kita tu adalah paradise. Yang kita semangat tidak toleh kanan kiri tu supaya dapat ke next level untuk ke finishing line. Kita tidak perlu ambik benda-benda yang tidak beneficial untuk kehidupan, sebab masa kita suntuk. Contohnya, fesyen. Beneficial untuk hidup? Tidak. Unless memang you are working as designer. Harmful? Tidak. Buang masa? Sometimes. Buang duit? Most of the time. 
Contoh sahaja. 

Analogy inspired by Mufti Ismail Menk on 'Qualities Of A True Believer"

Roses & Goblets.

The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) had a Hadi (camel driver) called Anjasha. On a journey Anjasha was chanting (singing) to make the camels go fast. The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said to him: “O Anjasha, drive slowly with the goblets!” Abu Qilaba (radi Allahu anhu) said, “By the ‘goblets’ he meant the women riding the camels.” [Sahih Bukhari]

A goblet is a delicate and beautiful glass vessel. By referring to women as goblets and telling his camel driver to go slower with them, the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) was showing us with what care Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) wants women to be treated. Islam offers a woman protection, love and care.

On the other hand, there are some women who would rather be stainless steel mugs than crystal goblets. When a person has no value for Allah’s favours on them and prefers to reject them, all one can do is pity them.